RELIGION AND CULTURE ARE THE GOLDEN WAYS

RELIGION AND CULTURE ARE THE GOLDEN WAYS
If somebody does not care to religion and culture. Really, their life will be in disorder. If somebody does not believe in religion, he will do what ever he wants. He just wants to do something that will give him any profit. He will very difficult to pity every body. We will be very proud with his selves. He does not think that every thing is just a moment, only contemporary. Culture is very important too. Culture will ask us how to respect our father. How to respect someone that older than us. How to make a friendship, how to get woman for wife, to treat her in our family and many ways toward the happiness. I have a relative in Medan. She is about 22 years old. She has a unique story about her life, cause she does not care about religion and culture. What happen with her? He gets marry without her father permission. It is some thing complicate . Every Mandailingnese who
wants to get marry, must tell to her/his father. A man has to give some money to a woman. It is the low in religion and culture. If we think about money, we will think what for we give money for the woman? Actually, the money will be very important. As we know, if somebody get marry, a both of them will need a place such as house, they will need a bed, a wardrobe, plate, spoon, and many other that we need in our house. So if a man give some money to a woman for marrying, a woman will use this for buying equipment, and everything that will they need in their house. But as for a man does not give anything. So they will buy after their marrying. It is not suitable with culture Mandailingnese any more.? So culture make easy to build any household. Easy to get happy in marrying. Same with in religion. I write this article because there is my relative, that get marry without culture. No body knows in my family that she has get marry. Including her father and her brother. She has three sister. She just tell to her sister. Never wants to get an advice from her father. The more complicate is, she said to her sister, so that her sister won't tell to her father. All of their sister disobey the culture. They obey their sister who does not care to culture. My relative gets marry with a man from Karo. No body knows they get marry with Islamic religion or not. She has a baby now. Her sister have knew about it since before she got marry. But they never tell to his father. it is sin. God will angry with her. She is really a lier. Lie for many cases. For one of her brother, she said that she lives in Tembung, Medan, Indonesia. But for his father she told that she lives in Sunggal, Medan. Nobody knows which one is the true. She only tell to her father by the mobile phone. They never meet each other. I can say that she is a naughty girl. She has done everything out side religion and culture. Cause this case, her husband never visit her father, never visit her village. She and her husband only live in Medan and her father in Mandailing. I hope
nobody does like this any more. It just make our father feels sad. He get a long time to feed her and his other children, but she has done something without the permission of her father. She has no any heart. If the marry is some thing like this, I believe that a man will leave her later. Cause they marry without religion. We can think, if a man love her, I believe a man will ask her father about this and done with the culture and religion. But he did not do anything. He just want to make her as his wife without low. I say without low because nobody knows when they get marry. Maybe they had gone to Wali Hakim or to KUA to get marry or maybe to a church in Medan. Just maybe. Until now, when I ask her father, he said that he does not know anything about her sister's marrying. I hope for everybody, don't do this way. It is big sin. And I believe that the man will leave a woman if they life together in one house without marrying. For every woman, culture and religion is the golden way for marrying. Please study religion, and please do your marrying as your culture. Cause the culture is the better way to life in your are, and religion is the best way to life in this world.

ISLAMIC KNOWLEDGE

ISLAMIC KNOWLEDGE
Obligatory Act of prayer.
1. Intention: Says Allah: and we did not command them save to worship Allah, making the religion sincerely for Him. The Prophet, upon whom be peace, said: "Every action is based upon intention".
2. Saying the Opening Takbir and Beginning the Prayer.
Ali reported the Prophet, upon whom be face, said: The key to prayer is purity. What puts into its inviolable state is the takbir, and the tasleem releases one from it.
3. Standing during the Obligatory Prayers.
One must stand during the prayer. If at all possible. Says Allah: "Guard and preserve the prayers and mid-most prayer. and stand for Allah with devotion.
4. Reciting al-Fatihah in Every Raka'ah of the Prayer:There are many authentic hadith which state that it is obligatory to recite al-Fatihah in every Raka'ah. 5. Ar-Ruku (Bowling Down).There is a consensus on the obligatory nature of the ruku. Says Allah; "Oh you who believe, bow down and prostrate your selves....". The position of ruku' is established by bending over, putting one's hand on one's knee, and remaining in that position until he attain "Calmness".
6. Standing Erect After the Bowling.
This is based on Abu Humaid's description of the prophet's prayer: "He would raise his head from his bowling, than stand straight until all of his back bones return to their place".
7. Prostration.
We have already stated the Qur'anic verse dealing with this obligatory act.
8. The Final Sitting and Recital of the Tashahud.
The Prophet's practice illustrates that when the final sitting of the prayer has been made, one must recite the tashahud at that time.
For completely, you can read the Book PRAYER. from www.islamic-message.net

CHINESE INVITATION IN INDONESIA

MODEL UNDANGAN CHINESE
Saya mendapat sebuah undangan dari seorang teman business saya dari Medan. Dalam rangka Resepsi Pernikahan adeknya di Selecta Restaurant (Royal Ballroom? Lt 5) Jalan Listrik No 2 Medan, Sumatera Utara, Indonesia. Pada tanggal 19 Des 2008.
50 persen tulisan yang terdapat di Undangannya bertuliskan hurup China, dan selebihnya berbahasa Indonesia dan Bahasa Inggeris.
Ini merupakan undangan ke dua dari teman business saya yang kebetulan keturunan Tiong Hoa.
Di halaman depan Undangannya tertulis:
Wedding Invitation.
On our wedding day
Our life together begins
We'll share with each other
One love, one dream, one heart.
Dihalaman ke dua, tertulis pula kat-kata berbahasa Inggeris seperti ini:
Yesterday............. We discovered love, gently unfolding in our heart whispering of the joy to come.
Today................... Our dream will come true, creating memories that we'll cherish for life time.
Tomorrow............ We begin a new journey hand in hand, eager to explore a word of promise.
Forever................ We will share an everlasting love that could come from god alone.
Kemudian kebetulan sekali saya tidak dapat menghadirinya dengan satu alasan tertentu. Saya hanya mengirimkan sedikit uang sebagai tanda bahwa saya berbangga hati atas Resepsi perkawinannya. Saya mengirim sms padanya.
Lalu sayapun mengirim satu sms untuknya. Begini smsnya: Congratulation for your marrying. I've sent a gift for you. Money about Rp: 88.888 in Mandiri Bank. Hope your marry will be eternally. As your pray in ur invitation: forever..... You will share an everlasting love that could from god alone. May God bless a both of you. Thank. From Ashartanjung's family, Panyabungan.

Traditional Game in Mandailing (Indonesian Language)

TIN, SALAH SATU PERMAINAN TRADISIONIL MANDAILING
Permainan Tin (Martin)adalah suatu permainan anak-anak yang cukup disenangi di zaman dulu di tanah Mandailing. Permainan ini bisa dikategorokan sebagai permainan mencari dan dicari. Tapi sekarang tidak banyak lagi yang memainkannya, Sebab amat banyak sekarang kegiatan-kegiatan yang membuat orang tidak lagi memainkannya. Seperti menonton sinetron, main playstation, game di ponsel, dan banyak lagi yang membuat permainan ini seperti kadaluarsa. Tapi bagi kita generasi sekarang. Perlu untuk mengingatnya. Jangan sempat permainan warisan ini sirna begitu saja ditelan masa. Sebab budaya itu amat penting nilainya. Budaya itu merupakan kekayaan bangsa. Begini cara mainnya.
Permainan ini terdiri dari beberapa orang. Paling sedikit 3 orang. Bisa juga dengan 4, 5, 6 orang atau lebih. Tanpa merubah cara mainnya. Bahkan bisa dimainkan oleh puluhan orang bahkan lebih.
Dalam permainan ini, ada dua posisi. Posisi pencari dan posisi dicari. Posisi mencari diakibatkan karena kalah. Dan posisi dicari diakibatkan karena menang. Kalah diartikan telah dapat di cari. Dan menang diartikan tak dapat di cari. Atau saat dia ditemukan, dia lebih menguasai post dari pada si pencari, yang seharusnya post dijaga oleh si pencari. Lokasi tempat, seharusnya punya tanah yang agak lapang. Yang bisa digunakan sebagai tempat post. Dan sebaiknya mempunyai tempat-tempat yang agak tersembunyi, yang berguna untuk tempat bersembunyi oaring yang dicari. Jadi permainan Martin ini bisa dikategorikan sebagai permaianan mencari dan dicari.
Di tanah yang agak lapang, kita bisa menggunaannya sebagai tempat post. Di lapangan ini dibuat garis lingkaran dengan menggores tanah. Biasanya lingkaran berdiameter satu meter. Di tengah lingkaran itu, kita susun serabut kelapa, ataupun sandal kita dan teman teman. Disusun hingga membentuk kerucut. Berarti post dapat dibanyangkan berada di tanah lapang. Yang di lapangan itu ada serabut yang disusun meninggi. Dan berada di dalam sebuah garis lingkaran. Bila kita berada dalam posisi kalah. Kita yang akan menjaga post ini. Seterusnya akan terus menjaga bila terus kalah. Walau sampai kapanpun bila permainan diteruskan. Caranya untuk memenangkan pertandingan ini, dengan mencari dan mengamati ke mana lawan bersembunyi. Tapi tetap harus menjaga post setiap saat. Jadi terbaik, cuma dengan mengamati seseksama mungkin. Jadi tidak diamati dengan saksama, lawan akan datang berlari dari persembunyiannya. Berlari menuju post. Menyepak tumpukan serabut hingga berantakan. Jadi cara untuk menghalaginya, adalah dengan menyebut namanya dan berlari secepat mungkin ke post. Jangan sampai lawan lebih dulu. Kemudian menyentuhnya serabut yang disusun tadi seraya mengatakan, “Tin”. Maka lawan yang tadilah yang kalah. Selanjutnya kita menanti lawan berusaha memporak-porandakan tumpukan serabut di post kita. Bila kita sudah melihat lawan, sebut namanya. Sentuh tumpukan serabut, sambil mengucapkan, ”Tin”. Maka ia pun akan jadi tawanan. Bengitulah seterusnya sampai habis pihak musuh. Bila musuh sudah tertawan semua, maka usailah permainan. Mulailah dengan permainan baru, dengan pihak yang kalah yaitu siapa yang tertawan lebih dulu. Tapi bila dalam permainan tadi kita tidak sempat menyebut nama, menyentuh tumpukan serabut, atau tidak sempat mengatakan tin, atau ia lebih cepat sampai ke tempat post. Sehingga ia menyepak tumpukan serabut dengan kerasnya, hingga berantakan. Maka seluruh tawanan akan berhak lari tanpa syarat. Tak ada lagi tawanan kita. Tugas kita bahkan bertambah. Yaitu merapikan tumpukan yang sudah berantakan. Dan mulai lagi mencari tawanan pertama. Begitulah seterusnya hingga kita menawan semua musuh atau pihak yang dicari, baru kita bisa berada pada pihak yang menang. Bila semua pihak yang dicari telah ditawan semua. Siapa yang lebih dulu tadi ditawan, dialah yang akan jadi pihak pencari pada tahap berikutnya, sampai ia bisa menawan atau menangkap semua lawan tandingnya. Begitu menarik kalau kita memainkannya. Ini salah satu permainan tradisi di tanah batak Mandailing Sumatra Utara Indonesia. Semoga generasi sekarang tidak akan melupakan permainan Mandailing ini.

HOW TO CHOOSE AN IDEAL WIFE

HOW TO CHOOSE AN IDEAL WIFE
You know how to choose an ideal husband or wife? Please study with me. I have proofed this system for a long time. The main condition is just to know what number is your engage wife/husband in his/her family. So you will know the character of him/her
This is the lesson
(a). A woman and man are the same:
1. And oldest in his/her family.
He/she is consist of ground. The type of ground is very patience. Ground was created for somebody to walk. Place for somebody to live. Place for somebody to do everything.
2. The second son or daughter.
He/she is consist or water. The type of water is always to find a low place. Easy for it to flows. It is cold.
3. 3rd son or daughter in his/her family.
He/she is consist of fire. The type of this fire is hot. Easy for them to get angry. Every third son and daughter are bully.
4. The fourth son and daughter.
He/she is consist of wind.
The type of wind is easy to go wherever it wants. His/her mind is easy to change.
This lesson (b):
If we combine them one by one. This is the result:
1st with 2nd. Ground and water.
You can look the river. They consist of water and ground. Ground is the basic. And water can flow on it.
1st and 3rd. Ground and fire.
You can look the fire.
Ground always on the bottom place. Fire flame is on it. Absolutely ground will feels hot.
1st with 4th. Ground and wind.
You can look at desert. When the wind comes. It will be puffy.
2nd and 3rd. Water and fire.
You can imagine when we spread water to fire. When we throw away water to the fire.
2nd and 4th. Water and wind.
It will be very nice. Like on the seaside. It is very harmony.
3rd and 4thg fire and wind.
You can look when the fire could not blame around wind. And wind always run before fire. I have proofed this theory in a long time. And you can look all of your brother must be like this:
1st: He is very patience. He is like ground.
2nd: He wants to do his work surely. He is like water.
3rd: He is bully. He is like fire.
4th: He wants to go around many times. He is like the wind.
Thank you very much. May you understand with my explanation.

Find many cases in Hijr Ismail (Indonesian Language)

78. MELIHAT BANYAK HAL DI HIJR ISMAIL
Seusai sholat dan berdo'a, kami terus pergi bersama-sama menuju Hijir Ismail. Kami seberangi arus jamaah yang sedang asyik melakukan tawaf. Kami semua saling berdekatan dengan maksud agar bisa sama-sama tolong-menolong dalam perjalanan ke Hijr Ismail ini. Pak tua berada pada baris terdepan, saya dan istri di tengah, sementara Bapak setengah tua berada di belakangku. Cukup mudah untuk melaluinya. Entah kenapa semua jemaah seperti lebih mementingkan memberi jalan kami dari pada melanjutkan tawafnya. Mungkin tuhan sedang memberi kelapangan dalam perjalanan kami. Sehingga dengan sangat mudahnya sampai ke pintu Hijr Ismail. Hijr ismail ini hanya sebuah tempat yang terdiri dari setengah lingkaran saja. Di dalamnya penuh dengan orang-orang yang sedang melaksanakan sholat. Ke sinilah tujuan kami dengan maksud agar bisa pula melalakukan sholat sunnah. Begitu pak tua masuk, kamipun terus bisa masuk bersama-sama orang lainnya. Kami melewati pintu Hijr Ismail yang hanya sekitar 1 Meter lebarnya. Di saat kami sedang berada di pintu masuk, rupanya polisi penjaga sudah menilai bahwa ruangan Hijr Ismail sudah terlalu padat. Jadi penjaga ini langsung berusaha untuk mengeluarkan saya dari Hijr Ismail, sementara pak tua sudah duluan masuk ke tempat itu. Dalam waktu itu juga, tiba-tiba sorang Negro datang melintas di antara saya dan polisi yang melarang itu. Polisi itu juga melarang Negro ini, tapi Negro ini melawan. Polisi itu berusaha menghalangi tubuh Negro ini, tapi malah Negro ini menepiskan tangan polisi itu. Mereka saling adu mulut dan saling menepiskan tangan. Ketika mereka lagi asyik bertengkar, saya dan istri menyempatkan diri masuk dan berusaha ke tengah-tengah jamaah yang ada dalam Hijir Ismail. Sehingga kami berhasil masuk dan tinggal Negro tadi yang masih adu tangan dan hampir nampak seperti berkelahi. Setelah kami masuk, segera kucari tahu bagaimana nasib Bapak setengah tua. Rupanya dia dan istrinya masih berdiri di bagian luar. Rupanya mereka tidak bisa masuk walau polisi itu masih terus melayani Negro tadi. Hingga setelah Negro tadi mengalah, masih banyak juga yang berusaha masuk, tapi semuanya tidak mendapat izin lagi dari penjaga. Bapak setengah tua hanya bisa menonton saat ini. Saya kasihan melihat mereka, tapi tentu saya juga takkan mampu menolong. Bahkan saya begitu heran dengan kehadiran Negro tadi. Kenapa ia datang tiba-tiba. Kalau dia manusia, berarti benar-benarlah tuhan telah menggerakkan hatinya untuk memasuki Hijr Ismail saat itu, sehingga saya bisa masuk di saat mereka bertengkar. Karena keajaiban ini, saya benar-benar tidak bisa memastikan seseorang itu manusia, atau juga malaikat. Tapi sungguh banyak keganjilan yang saya hadapi sejak saya sampai di negeri Mekkah ini.
Di dalam Hijr Ismail, kami bisa sholat dengan khusuknya. Kami bisa berzikr, saya bahkan masih sempat melihat dan memperhatikan lokasi itu termasuk dinding dan pondasi Kakbah. Kuperhatikan bahwa di bagian bawah Kakbah ini, ada pagar yang terbuat dari tali serabut. Tali sebesar pergelangan tangan, tapi hanya seutas saja. Tiang-tiangnya tidak seberapa tinggi. Bahkan lutut saya lebih tinggi dari pada pagar itu.
Sewaktu saya baru selesai melakukan sholat sunnah, tiba-tiba saya mendengar sesuatu. Suaranya seperti suara bebek sedang minum dan mengisap air. Lalu kuperjelas, ternyata ada seorang laki-laki tua berbangsa Negro yang sedang asyik menjilati Kakbah. Dia dengan seriusnya menjilati Kakbah ini dengan lidahnya. Entah kenapa dia berbuat begitu. Pada mulanya saya terheran melihatnya, tapi lama-lama saya jadi tertawa. Lalu kuberi tahu pada istriku. Diapun jadi tersenyum karena melihat perbuatan Negro yang terlalu lucu itu. Wajahnya sangat mirip dengan seorang aktor di serial TV berjudul Little Misi, yang berkisahkan tentang perbudakan di Brasilia. Tapi sayang saya tidak sempat menegurnya, sebab saya terlalu asyik membaca amalan-amalan ibadah di sini. Dan lagi pula saya sangat tidak suka untuk berkenalan dengan orang lain di ruangan Hijr Ismail ini.
Dalam waktu ini juga, kulihat seorang petugas mesjid datang membawa semprot farfum. Dia menyiram Kakbah dengan wangi-wangian. Sejak ini barulah saya tahu rupanya daerah sekitar Kakbah sangat wangi karena diberi wangi-wangian. Begitu petugas mesjid ini berlalu, saya masih melihat seorang Negro yang masih terus dengan perbuatannya yang saya nilai lucu, padahal Kakbah hanya bangunan biasa. Yang mula pertamanya dibangun nabi Adam, kemudian dilanjutkan oleh nabi Ibrahim dan kemudian
dilanjutkan perbaikannya di zaman nabi Muhammad. Dan belakangan ini telah dibangun lebih megah oleh pemerintah Kerajaan Saudi Arabia.
Setelah kami merasa cukup puas beribadah di dalam Hijr Ismail ini, dan banyak yang sudah saya saksikan di tempat ini, kamipun berusaha untuk keluar lagi dan berkumpul lagi dengan semua teman-teman lainnya.

MANY KIND OF FRUIT IN MANDAILING

MANY KIND OF FRUIT IN MANDAILING
In this page, I want to tell you about many kind of and fruit in my town, Panyabungan, Madina (Mandailing Natal), North Sumatra, Indonesia. Maybe there has been know many people about Durian, Rambutan, Langsat, Orange and many others that has been famous in this word. But now I want to tell every body, that there are many fruits in Mandailing that unknown by people in outside Mandailing. I will not say the all, but I just want to tell a part of many kind of fruit in Mandailing Godang.
1. Pultak-Pultak: This fruit is as a big as grape. The plant of this fruit just about 1 Meter. The color of fruit is green. When it is going mature, it will change to be yellow. The fruit covers by wrapper like curtain. The leaf of this plant is as a half of a marquise leaf. Usually this plant grows around the rice field. The taste of this fruit is like marquise. Pultak-pultak fruit is as a big as grape. No thing sold in every market in Mandailing. But many children in Mandailing Godang knows that this fruit is very sweet. And many children likes it. Including me when I was a young boy.
2. Jontian. This fruit s a little bit acid. The model of jontian is like duku, but covered by hard skin. To open this fruit, we shoul pull by our finger until broken. We will find the fruit inside. The color of fruit and the skin is orange. There is many jontians we find in the market in Mandailing. Like in Panyabungan, Mompang, Sinonoan, Malintang, Kayu Laut, Laru, Maga, Kota Nopan, Longat, Gunung Baringin, and many other market in Mandailing Godang (Madina) Indonesia. The price of this fruit is about Rp 3,000 /Kg. Or if we have 1 USD, we will get 4 Kg. It is very cheap. I don't know why no body in Mandailing sell this fruit to outside of Mandailing Natal (Madina). But every body in Mandailing knows abot Jontian fruit. We willl find jontian in Mandailing 3 months in a year. Only 3 month,
3. Apundung. Apundung is a fruit as a half big of Marquise. The color of skin is orange and the color of fruit inside is grey. It is a little bit acid. But many people like it. We will find Apundung in three months in a year too. The price is similar with jontian. The skin of apudung is not hard like jontian. The skin is very thick and soft. Easy to open or to break it. There is some water inside the skin. It is very suitable to eat in the noon. Not in the night time, cause it is a little bit acid. Aik-aik. This friut is very similar with duku. Many people can not compare this fruit, cause the skin and measure is very similar. But its are difference. Duku is a sweet fruit, and Aik-aik is very a little bit acid. The fruit of duku is very solid but the fruit of Aik-aik is like liquit. Because it almost being liquiet, when we break this fruit, we should put in our mouth, It is the difference of Duku and Aik aik. The price of this fruit is 2 Kg for 1 USD. It is very cheap. Isn't it?.
4. Buah Pora (Kedondong). Kedondong fruit is as a big of Marquise. But these type are not same. Marquise is soft fruit, but Kedondong more hard. The skin of Kedondong is almost united with content inside. So to open this fruit must use knife. At the beginning, the color is green. When it is mature, it will going to yellow. Inside of Buah Pora is a little bit hard to. The shed of this fruit is not like ball, but like the root. If our theeth is not so good, we should part with knife this fruit before eat. Cause the root of shed can leave between our teeth. So better we part by knife and we eat parting or Buah Pora one
slide by one slide. The plant of Buah Pora or Kedondong is Monocotile. the tree is very high. Some time until 10 Meter. In one three, we can take many Kilo Gram of Kedondong. Some time until 200 Kg. The price is 4 kg for 1 USD. The cheap fruit in western world if we bring this Kedondong to western country. Many seller we find in every market in Mandailing. Even in Medan, the capital or North Sumatra. So if you
want to know about the kind of fruit in Mandailing Indonesia, you have known a part.
I think, it is enought with my explanation about these fruits. The name of the else fruit in Mandailing Natal is Rumbio, Sihim, Buah Malaka, Camin-camin, Incung, and many other. I don't promise, but if I have time, I will tell you one by one.