RELIGION AND CULTURE ARE THE GOLDEN WAYS

RELIGION AND CULTURE ARE THE GOLDEN WAYS
If somebody does not care to religion and culture. Really, their life will be in disorder. If somebody does not believe in religion, he will do what ever he wants. He just wants to do something that will give him any profit. He will very difficult to pity every body. We will be very proud with his selves. He does not think that every thing is just a moment, only contemporary. Culture is very important too. Culture will ask us how to respect our father. How to respect someone that older than us. How to make a friendship, how to get woman for wife, to treat her in our family and many ways toward the happiness. I have a relative in Medan. She is about 22 years old. She has a unique story about her life, cause she does not care about religion and culture. What happen with her? He gets marry without her father permission. It is some thing complicate . Every Mandailingnese who
wants to get marry, must tell to her/his father. A man has to give some money to a woman. It is the low in religion and culture. If we think about money, we will think what for we give money for the woman? Actually, the money will be very important. As we know, if somebody get marry, a both of them will need a place such as house, they will need a bed, a wardrobe, plate, spoon, and many other that we need in our house. So if a man give some money to a woman for marrying, a woman will use this for buying equipment, and everything that will they need in their house. But as for a man does not give anything. So they will buy after their marrying. It is not suitable with culture Mandailingnese any more.? So culture make easy to build any household. Easy to get happy in marrying. Same with in religion. I write this article because there is my relative, that get marry without culture. No body knows in my family that she has get marry. Including her father and her brother. She has three sister. She just tell to her sister. Never wants to get an advice from her father. The more complicate is, she said to her sister, so that her sister won't tell to her father. All of their sister disobey the culture. They obey their sister who does not care to culture. My relative gets marry with a man from Karo. No body knows they get marry with Islamic religion or not. She has a baby now. Her sister have knew about it since before she got marry. But they never tell to his father. it is sin. God will angry with her. She is really a lier. Lie for many cases. For one of her brother, she said that she lives in Tembung, Medan, Indonesia. But for his father she told that she lives in Sunggal, Medan. Nobody knows which one is the true. She only tell to her father by the mobile phone. They never meet each other. I can say that she is a naughty girl. She has done everything out side religion and culture. Cause this case, her husband never visit her father, never visit her village. She and her husband only live in Medan and her father in Mandailing. I hope
nobody does like this any more. It just make our father feels sad. He get a long time to feed her and his other children, but she has done something without the permission of her father. She has no any heart. If the marry is some thing like this, I believe that a man will leave her later. Cause they marry without religion. We can think, if a man love her, I believe a man will ask her father about this and done with the culture and religion. But he did not do anything. He just want to make her as his wife without low. I say without low because nobody knows when they get marry. Maybe they had gone to Wali Hakim or to KUA to get marry or maybe to a church in Medan. Just maybe. Until now, when I ask her father, he said that he does not know anything about her sister's marrying. I hope for everybody, don't do this way. It is big sin. And I believe that the man will leave a woman if they life together in one house without marrying. For every woman, culture and religion is the golden way for marrying. Please study religion, and please do your marrying as your culture. Cause the culture is the better way to life in your are, and religion is the best way to life in this world.